Think Ive changed my mind

[sj]

Im sure most of you know about the little girl Ive been having who has behaviour problems. Well things arent getting any better with her. She constantly runs away from me on the way home from school, she totally blanks me when Im trying to explain things to her and turns her back on me, she will not play with the other children nicely, she pushes them etc.
Ive spoken to her mum and her mum said "shes like that for me too" but she is trying to get her some help through the school.
Its now got the point where I dread going to pick her up as I know what its going to be like.

I think Im going to talk to her mum about arranging alternative care for her, would you do the same?

Sam

[lisaurry]

Hi sj,

I think that if I had got to the stage of dreading picking a child up and not enjoying the time I had with them, then yes I would think about ending their contract.

I had a similar situation - and I ended the contract (they finish next week actually). It took me a long time to decide, but I am glad I did - as they were making me miserable and unhappy.

You've got to enjoy what you do, else what is the point of doing it I think.

There are nice children out there, and families. Look after yourself and your business - enjoy what you do, and look forward to having your mindees - thats what I say.

good luck
Lisa x

[angeldelight]

Maybe this little girl needs help and support from the school before she begins to settle for anyone

I had a little girl like this and she would not even speak to me

Strange thing is that months and months after her leaving she shouts me at the school and comes and chats

Children can be so funny cant they

I think you have been really patient and you have really tried to be honest

I would do the same if I were you

Good luck

Angel xx

[sarahnev707]

There does come a point Sam when you've gone as far as you can and it's affecting you and everyone with you....at least you can always say you've tried your best!

Good luck

Sarahx

[miffy]

Sometimes Sam you just have to say you've given it your best shot and it hasn't worked.

Good luck

Miffy x

[lorri]

I think you would be doing the right thing Sam.

If you are dreading picking her up it must be hard for you to be as jolly around her as you would like and she could pick up on the fact that you are not enjoying your time with her which wouldn't be a good outcome.

You've got to think of yourself but also the little girl and I honestly believe that you are and that that is the way to go.

Good luck.

Lorri x

[sj]

I told her mum today that as of next friday I wont be able to have her cus of her behaviour. Her mum was lovely about it and understood that with my daughter being 3, she possibly wasnt the best person for my daughter to be around.
I feel awful but things just werent working out. The school are getting an extra teaching assistant in for her who deals with the type of behaviour she is displaying, so at least she is going to get some help.

I feel like I have failed in someway but I know it is best for my children and the other mindees!

Sam

[smartimartie]

Don't beat yourself up.

You HAVE done the right thing.

Pat yourself on the back for being honest with yourself and knowing your and your own child's limits.

It sounds like this child requires a one to one. A service you are unable to offer because you have your own children and a business.

I hope the relief of finally putting an end to the contract puts a smile on your face... Been there... Done that... Destroyed the evidence... Ha ha ha