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Post by ajs on Nov 13, 2007 18:24:46 GMT
mum of my 2 year old (tomorrow) arrived this evening with a letter giving me a months notice
so reason one for being gutted is i am losing a little boy who i really love he has been with me for 18 months since he was 6 months and i've supported her through pnd and a really acrimonious divorce, and as well as that i have helped her fight her bastar* of an ex for custody
second reason is she was taking 2 weeks from the 14th dec as holiday (he's with his dad) which she was going to pay me for , but the notice ends on the day he goes on holiday with his dad.
so that's nearly £200 i lose two weeks before xmas great eh
she says that although she loves him coming here that she feels he needs to be full time at nursery as he is so active, she's probably right but that doesn't help me being upset that he's going, and my 14 year old absolutely adores him too
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Post by angeldelight on Nov 13, 2007 18:41:56 GMT
Mandy I am really sorry
Hope you are ok
There is nothing worse than this happening I can just imagine how you must be feeling
Hugs to you
Love Angel xx
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Post by rubybubbles on Nov 13, 2007 19:25:55 GMT
oh no it's so hard when this happens ((((hugs))))
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Post by miffy on Nov 13, 2007 19:35:11 GMT
Mandy
so sorry - I know how much you care for this little one.
losing children is bad enough when you know it's about to happen but so much worse when it's unexpected.
Hope you're OK
Miffy x
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Post by banana on Nov 13, 2007 19:52:54 GMT
So sorry to hear this Mandy.
You must be upset.
Hope you are ok and at least with you and the mum being so close you will still get to stay in contact??
Big hugs
xxxx
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Post by carolinel on Nov 13, 2007 20:35:41 GMT
oh that's such a shame Mandy.
Hope you are ok.
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Post by ajs on Nov 13, 2007 21:23:35 GMT
thanks for all your lovely wishes and messages funnily enough i have said before that i feel no loyalty from this mum and that if a better offer came up i was sure she'd take it
because it's his birthday tomorrow mum took me and my other little ones to the local play centre as a treat for him as he's with dad tomorrow, he spent the whole time climbing on my lap cuddling me and telling her i was his mandy, i hope she's regretting her decision.
also grandma came with us and she is my age and after they dropped me home she texted me and asked me if i'd like to meet up with her without her daughter and the little one as she enjoyed the company and our chats.
mum is still quite young 20 years younger then me so i don't see staying in touch with her but will probably see the little one through granny
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Post by angeldelight on Nov 13, 2007 21:53:34 GMT
That is really nice about the gran
I hope the daughter realises that she has made a huge mistake - most def her loss Mandy
Angel xx
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Post by linda on Nov 13, 2007 22:18:43 GMT
Its so horrible when things like this happen you would probably never have given this child notice and if you had to you would not of slept for days but the mum gave you notice easily probably with no thought for you .
I think most of us childminders are so loyal and we do support parents through all sorts of situations and are like nurses socialworkers ect with outb the acknowlegements .
Good luck in getting more children .
Love lindax
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Post by theresa on Nov 13, 2007 23:53:43 GMT
oh mandy what a rotten thing to happen  xxx |
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Post by angeldelight on Nov 14, 2007 8:43:41 GMT
Hope you are ok today Mandy ?
Angel xx
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Post by ajs on Nov 14, 2007 8:57:07 GMT
hi angel
yes i am thanks i am still terribly disappointed but nothing i can do about it now.
i forgot to add when talking about the mum, that this time last year she owed me over £600 in back fees which had built up as she and her husband were battling over money and she kept bouncing cheques on me
i was going to give notice but decided last december that it was worth hanging on as she wouldn't ever settle the debt if i stopped having him, i was right and by april this year she cleared it and all fees have been up to date since then, but it just goes to show that no matter what you do for the families they cr*p on you in the end
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Post by ajs on Nov 14, 2007 8:57:53 GMT
sorry that sounded very bitter, which i suppose i am maybe i expected some loyalty for all the support i've given her. ;D
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Post by tasha on Nov 14, 2007 9:41:31 GMT
Oh Mandy, You sound so fed up (don't blame you)! You never know..you might replace him with a child whose parents appreeciate you...wonders may never cease!  Tasha  |
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Post by sarahnev707 on Nov 14, 2007 10:21:19 GMT
Of course you're bitter! I would be too.... but you've been there for him when he needed you and that counts for more than anything else.... Sarahx |
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Post by lorraine2767 on Nov 14, 2007 11:50:25 GMT
Oh sorry to hear that and just before christmas, but I am sure you will feel the spaces in no time at all.
Hope you are feeling ok today.
Lorraine xx
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Post by polly2 on Nov 15, 2007 16:32:03 GMT
aww sorry to read this
You have really supported this parent and done without money yourself for her.
You did what was best for the child and I am sure they will regret this
Hope you get your space filled soon
Hollyx
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