Post by lucylion on Nov 13, 2007 20:41:54 GMT
Hi I have been childminding a 1 yr old girl for 2 months, a 3 yr old boy, 5 yr old boy, 8 yr old girl and 11 yr old girl for 4 months. My daughter is 3 and she seemed to love them coming but lately she seems to be jealous of the baby, and arguing with the 3 year old. Obviously I have to give the baby attention, e.g. carrying changing, feeding but i also really try to give my daughter extra attention so she doesnt feel left out. My daughter is always arguing and complaining, she plays up for me, not listening to me, not sharing etc, generally the other children and ok with me. The 3,5, an 8 year old are all brothers and sister and they tend to stick together but are getting better and including my daughter after i spoke to them.
The hardest thing was yesterday she said she 'doesnt want me to look after other children any more', it really broke my heart, i wanted to spend more time with her by childminding but whenever she is around when i have other children she always plays up i feel like i am always telling her off. When it is just me and my daughter at home on our own she is as good as gold, and i love it!
I really want her to be happy when i am minding other children but it feels like its so much easier and i enjoy it so much more when shes not around e.g. at playgroup or at a friends house for tea etc...! And I feel so awful for thinking that.
I understand that the children are coming into her house with her family and her toys and things and she has to share and not get 1 to 1 attention with me all the time but i am finding her so much hard work at the moment, just wondeing how everyone else copes when their children are finding it hard to adjust to your new job.
Although having said all that she is always talking about the minded kids in a good way when they aren't her like they are part of her family/friends circle.
Thank you for any help you could offer, sorry for going on!!
The hardest thing was yesterday she said she 'doesnt want me to look after other children any more', it really broke my heart, i wanted to spend more time with her by childminding but whenever she is around when i have other children she always plays up i feel like i am always telling her off. When it is just me and my daughter at home on our own she is as good as gold, and i love it!
I really want her to be happy when i am minding other children but it feels like its so much easier and i enjoy it so much more when shes not around e.g. at playgroup or at a friends house for tea etc...! And I feel so awful for thinking that.
I understand that the children are coming into her house with her family and her toys and things and she has to share and not get 1 to 1 attention with me all the time but i am finding her so much hard work at the moment, just wondeing how everyone else copes when their children are finding it hard to adjust to your new job.
Although having said all that she is always talking about the minded kids in a good way when they aren't her like they are part of her family/friends circle.
Thank you for any help you could offer, sorry for going on!!