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Post by janet on Jul 3, 2007 10:56:17 GMT
oh my god i am so angry i have a child which i told you about before keeps having headlice i am sooooooooooo sick of keep telling mum. she says well i go through her hair and put treatment on. what is happening is she has got the lice off her big sis who will not sit and get her hair done ( no excuse i would make her get it done ) anyway she is getting rid of the live lice but not getting the eggs out i have told her the only way to get rid of them is too pull the eggs out , i check my kids every day so dont see why others cant, i did a headlice policy saying the child would be sent home if they had headlice so surprise surprise just found 2, i have pulled them out and stuck them on some sellotape, rang her work and told her to pick her up, this is the first time i have done this i usually tell her when picking up the child, she has just told me how she thinks it is ridiculas and that the child will never be here as acccording to me she has them all the time, i again told her about the egg thing and that if she doesnt sort it out then yes she will have them all the time, also pointed out that i dont want the others getting them and myself, apart from the child wearing a hat constantly what does she want me to do. she then said she thinks i am paranoid about headlice and that every child has them , no they dont i said, getting a bit more stressed you need to check every day and that is not up to me. she then said well if she was at nursery they wouldnt send her home, i then said ( very unproffesionally ) send her to bloody nursery then, she got the child and left, i know i should not of spoke that way but i am so ...... off by this and due to the fact i havent had a cigarette, so probably now lost the child which i didnt want. and become bad childminder of the year, any suggestions from any 1 xxxxxxxxxx
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Post by angeldelight on Jul 3, 2007 11:06:01 GMT
Janet do not beat yourself up over this Sounds like you are having one of those days plus you have run out of patience with this parent You are only human after all I do know of a story though that happened in a nursery recently and it was the same sort of story they just kept sending the child and every week the child was getting them and then the other children were catching them So they also got angry So you are not the only one Not sure there is an easy answer here - see what everyone else says Maybe you should not have reacted like you did who knows ? - but you do not want to lose the child - so only thing for it is to swallow your pride I am afraid and say sorry Could you print some information out and give it to her and explain how you are feeling about this? She is only human also and if you explain how the other children get them all the time etc - without really directing it at her maybe she will understand There are some free leaflet downloads here www.headliceadvice.net/factsheets/booklets.htmlHope you are ok anyway I know you are struggling with the diet and the fact you are trying to stop smoking Good luck sorry I am not much help Angel xx Oh and I do not think you are bad childminder of the year We all snap when we least expect it You are a nice person who just got angry !!
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Post by lorri on Jul 3, 2007 11:21:52 GMT
Hi
I don't blame you for getting mad! Blimey, what is wrong with some parents? Why do they let their poor little children constantly have headlice?
Maybe now that you have actually shown her how serious you are about this and how serious the situation is by getting her to leave work and collect her little girl she will do something about it. I bet if she talks to anyone else about what's happened and hears what's coming out of her mouth as she explains she will realise how awful it is and do something about it.
It amazes me how flippant some parents are about these types of things.
I think that you may have to apologise to her but definitely not retract the action you took or the seriousness of this. It's for her daughter's own good that this is addressed.
(Well done for not smoking even after this! Shows you can do it!)
Good luck!
Lorri
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Post by susan on Jul 3, 2007 14:19:31 GMT
Dont feel bad, she really did push it with you.
I know everywhere is different but at our local schools, nuseries etc if your child has head lice they are sent home till they have gone to stop them spreading so I think you are right to ask her to sort it out, properly! It is not your job to de nit her is it....
Maybe you should say sorry for saying what you said but I think she should apologise too to you
Let us no what happens, keep your chin up Janet
xxx
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Post by mel on Jul 3, 2007 15:18:38 GMT
Don't feel bad - you can't be expected to keep on top of someone elses child's nits! If my children were constantly getting them off a mindee I would be sooo mad too so don't beat yourself up about it!
Mel x
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Post by Pauline on Jul 3, 2007 19:12:42 GMT
I would take Angel's advice and say that you are sorry, you were having a bad day and realise that you shouldn't have spoken like that. Hopefully she will realise that it can easily happen, perhaps she's done similar, who knows. Good luck
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Post by nannan on Jul 3, 2007 20:14:42 GMT
Hi Janet, like has been said if I were you I would say sorry, but you were right in the first place so dont beat yourself up about it, as has been said we all lose it some time, I know what the mindee mother meant when saying the younger one gets the nits from the older child as my eldest granddaughter can be a madam for her mum and it has been down to me to de nit her from time to time, now she is nearly eight she will let mum do her hair as she knows if she doesnt then nanny will, maybe you could suggest to the mum would somebody else be able to de nit the older child for her, so as the younger one is not sufferring all the time. good luck with what you decide mandy
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Post by janet on Jul 3, 2007 20:34:46 GMT
thanks again for all your advice ladies, i rang her about 2 hours ago and said sorry, she also said sorry to me and that she didnt want to lose me, she said she will try keep on top of her older daughter she has treatened her with no birthday sleepover if she will not let her check for 30 mins a night, she also told me that she has also had lice off the baby on several occasions, in the end we had a joke about me having to check her hair ( mums ) and pick the eggs out. she did still say that i am paranoid of nits, but i told her i cant help that seeing them makes me itch all over. anyway we shall try again and see what tomorrow brings NO NITS HOPEFULLT lol xxx
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Post by angeldelight on Jul 3, 2007 21:27:40 GMT
That is great news Janet
At least she took your apology for what it was
Hope they soon get rid of the nasty things
Angel xx
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Post by deeb66 on Jul 4, 2007 19:13:55 GMT
Janet - I am sorry for some reason I missed this post.
I am glad you managed to sort it out with the mum and you are back on track again...there is nothing worse than having friction with one of your parents!
Dee
P.S. I am proud of you for not smoking and trying to kick the habit....well done!!!!!!!!!
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Post by Pauline on Jul 6, 2007 15:56:31 GMT
Well done Janet on sorting it out so well, it take a lot of courage to be the first to apologise, you should be proud of yourself.
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Post by janet on Jul 6, 2007 15:59:37 GMT
THANX AGAIN LADIES, GREAT STRESS RELIEVER ON THIS FORUM XXXXXX
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Post by tasha on Aug 18, 2007 21:50:35 GMT
Sorry - I missed the original post - has their been an improvment? Tasha
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Post by charleyfarley on Aug 18, 2007 22:23:54 GMT
I've only ever had one child with it and I actually helped her mom get rid of them as I had no other children at the time. It took us about two weeks with both of us doing it. I absolutely dread my daughter getting them as she has got long hair and starts school full time Sept. I'm itching now thinking about it. Hopefully Janet you've sorted it out and the little friends have gone FOREVER with a bit of luck.
Carol xx
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Post by tasha on Aug 18, 2007 23:09:39 GMT
I actually introduced a policy about excluding because of headlice because I was sick of my own family catching them from minded children after advice from the forum! I'll email you a copy if you PM me your email address. If your paranoid then so am I!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tasha
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Post by ajs on Aug 18, 2007 23:12:43 GMT
my policy says i won't exclude them if parents are taking responsibility and treating them or combing them out every night. and you can tell if they are as the hair is lovely and soft with all of the conditioner going through it. if they are not treating them then the children are excluded until such time as the parent's realise they are neglecting their children by allowing them to be infected yuk yuk yuk
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Post by charleyfarley on Aug 19, 2007 8:22:21 GMT
I've got the headlice policy, thanks for offering it. You don't mind having the children if as ajs said the parent was working to get rid of the little friends (thats what I call them) but if they are not then why should we get infected with them. Daughter knows she has to have hair in plaits for school and knows why to. I'm itching again. Carol xx
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Post by rubybubbles on Aug 29, 2007 12:34:31 GMT
I've not had any problems with nits here but have younger children. My dd is going up to pre-school and going to take on board wearing hair back. She has thick masses of curls so I'm really going to have to keep a beady eye on her I've got in some of the nit stuff just in case ready too Emma
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Post by kminder on Aug 29, 2007 18:29:03 GMT
Hi I have had the same problem with one mindee,I have written a headlice policy now stating that child must be treated and free from nits before returning.
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Post by fionamal on Aug 30, 2007 20:07:42 GMT
Never really thought about it until now, but do keep a bottle of potion in the bathroom cabinet just incase any of mine get them.
Will have to organise a policy soon.
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Post by theresa on Aug 30, 2007 20:26:45 GMT
I've got to admit it does make me laugh when we have to keep our pets wormed and defleaed and yet parent's won't keep their kids nits free. How would they like it if we didn't keep up flea treatment and had fleas jumping about the house and biting their kids (yucky i know).
I would exclude any child from my setting if they had nits, the parent's should be ashamed for not even trying to de-nit their kids.
xx
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Post by miffy on Aug 30, 2007 20:29:41 GMT
I've always been told to use a nit comb and plenty of conditioner as this makes it harder for the nits to hang on , then you can comb them out easier.
Ugh! As soon as I think about it I start to itch!!
Miffy
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Post by tasha on Aug 30, 2007 20:32:27 GMT
I use the nitty gritty comb - £10 from Boots - gets them all out plus allm the eggs - one of my best buys! Tasha
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Post by banana on Sept 14, 2007 22:01:15 GMT
Janet,
How has this been going?? Are you all beastie free?
x
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Post by janet on Sept 15, 2007 11:01:50 GMT
i have just given up on this on i know i am being soft but i just get the dam things out of her head myself now, if i contacted her to say she has lice she would never be here, every day she will have 1 and i slowly but surely am pulling out the eggs xxxxxx
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Post by tasha on Sept 15, 2007 22:41:51 GMT
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Post by helen1980 on Sept 21, 2007 20:12:56 GMT
Hi my daughter is constantly coming home from school with headlice even though i check her hair every morning and evening. She never has any in the holidays and i don't use lotions. All it takes is for one parent not to bother doing their childrens hair and the whole school seems to get reinfected. It drives me mad! So I don't think you should blame yourself at all! XX
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Post by lizzy on Oct 1, 2007 19:14:44 GMT
Hi just read this thread i know i'm really slow but my computers broken and i'm having to use hubbys anyway i bought some spray called rappell when my daughter caught nits from school so as well as the usual conditioner tee tree and comb i spray this in. touch wood she's never had them again. you can buy it from the pharmacy at tesco. jane
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Post by emloujar on Oct 17, 2007 12:24:41 GMT
so sorry to here about your trouble but i understand about headlice my daughter gets them all the time from her best friend and i had to ask her not to see her anymore terriable situation. I am sure the parent will understand your outburst you are only trying to protect the other mindies. did you fill out a incident form to cover your own back. I am sure your rep will be ok. we are here if you need to let off steam.
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Post by rubybubbles on Oct 17, 2007 12:36:22 GMT
I've got to admit it does make me laugh when we have to keep our pets wormed and defleaed and yet parent's won't keep their kids nits free. How would they like it if we didn't keep up flea treatment and had fleas jumping about the house and biting their kids (yucky i know). I would exclude any child from my setting if they had nits, the parent's should be ashamed for not even trying to de-nit their kids. xx how true good angle to look at it- do you think you could use that to tell parents
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